My straight marriage is under more threat from discriminatory anti-gay voters than from same-sex couples wanting to be similarly recognized. I got married in order to embark upon a commitment of mutuality and love, not join a private country club for straights only. I am astounded by the shallowness of a legal and moral definition of marriage which privileges the sex of its participants beyond all other criteria Tom Ryberg

this is why Milami and I have postponed our marriage indefinitely. as much as we'd like to enjoy the tax and legal benefits, it is not fair to our friends. their relationships are just as loving and devoted as ours.